Sighs and Stares
Posted By Lonesome Loser on June 17, 2009
It’s interesting to notice how often we indirectly communicate romantic love and/or sexual attraction when we’re not really aware of doing so. For example, facial expressions you aren’t aware of, standing too close to your Loved One, or avoiding standing too near them. Maybe you talked too much about your Loved One with friends or with your own girlfriend/boyfriend. A really common and obvious sign of romantic love is to stare at your Loved One like a cartoon character that just got hit over the head with an anvil, often accompanied by sighs. Sometimes Loved Ones just seem to intuit our feelings, and usually respond by avoiding any substantially intimate conversation with us.
What are the ways in which you know or think you might have communicated your love? And how do you feel about that now?
I know this all to well. Especially the whole thing about trying to be closer to the loved one and not helping but to stare. It’s just one of those things, whenever she comes in the room I can’t help but look at her and even if I intentionally divert my eyes away, they usually re-focus on her before too long.
I’m aware of what I’m doing but I can’t help and she knows how I feel although we’ve both moved past it because I told her I was over her(which I was at the time)
A piece of me will always love her though. Unrequited love is a torture that some of us are meant to endure.
I totally relate to this experience of staring at someone.Unfortunately, for me I have no idea how to control my feelings for him.I was going through the blogs by the author and I totally understand what he is talking about.
I can never tell him how I feel and in a few short weeks it will all be over and I wont ever see him again.
“what she is talking about”, actually
mine (lonesome loser) was a same-sex love
there’s no real controlling romantic love
I hope you make some sort of sense of all of it, for yourself
I apologize…my mistake ..i assumed she was a he
i got around to reading your blog after i wrote what i did.
.and i agree..no real controlling romantic love..but as they say time heals all wounds
i hope
I always feel that there is something beautifully complex about my loved one. That’s why I sometimes end up staring. It’s as if my brain is trying to deduce what makes him so special, so brilliant and so wonderful…
hahaha i was the one being stared at… only to be left with my heart in a million pieces, will it heal some day you think???
Oh yeah, just about all of the above. Also making excuses in my mind to walk into or even just past her office. Beaten a few friends to death with my mopey bleatings.
This is interesting. I learned a lot by reading all this. I am on the receiving end of the unrequited love. I am an office worker and the president of my large company has the crush on me. He tries to avoid me as much as he can, even sending his exec. assistant to meetings in his place. He stares and gets very nervous around me. I feel bad for him, and it makes me very uncomfortable too. The whole company knows and that makes it even more difficult for me. We are both married, so there’s no way. If I could, I would help him get over this, but it’s been several years and it’s only getting worse. I don’t know what to do??? I can’t imagine the pain people must feel. I am so sorry that he has to go through this! I hope I won’t have to give up my job, I really like working here.
Wow, I hope you won’t have to give up your job, either. Sounds like a very difficult position to be in, I don’t envy you. It’s been several years!? Have you ever had the opportunity to directly tell the man you are flattered but just not available and not interested? Sometimes a direct “No” can penetrate the fog of unrequited love…
Thank you so much for this website. It is wonderful to realise that I’m not as much of an OCD sicko / stalker that I feared I might be. It’s such a relief that others have gone through the same thing. I hate that I want him – I hate that I can’t control my feelings and that both of have to us suffer because I can’t control myself. I am embarrased that I love him. It’s horrible!