Same Planet, Different Worlds

Lonesome Loser | May 22, 2010

Funny how we hear things we want to hear, and ignore things we wish weren’t true. It’s human nature, we all do it for any number of reasons. The dual lenses of denial and rose-coloring in the bifocal glasses that we all use is particularly distorting in unrequited love. Loved Ones say things we over [...]

Sing Along

Lonesome Loser | January 21, 2010

(Musicals on the mind today, sorry!) I’ve been thinking about the tension between our perspectives, and those of our Loved Ones or others, and how opposed they often seem to be. Would-be lovers see their love as “real,” whereas everyone else (including the Loved One) sees it as “unreal” or a “crush.”  Very frustrating!  This [...]

Oops, your love is showing!

Lonesome Loser | October 13, 2009

Here is a quiz on how we show our love, even if we don’t want to show it. Please email me if you have trouble viewing the quiz or it is not working correctly, this is the first time I’ve used this service: How Do You Show Your Love? » Quiz Make Share/Save

The Costs of Unrequited Love

Lonesome Loser | January 17, 2009

Money spent on gifts for loved one, cell phone bills, and finally, therapy… $1000 Time lost to obsessive fantasy, crying, and avoiding all social outlets… 1000 hours Effort exerted trying to move mountains that simply refuse to budge… 10,000 watts every day Knowing you have the capacity to love… Priceless (See also “The Serious Costs [...]

“Helpful” Others & Self-Help

Lonesome Loser | December 28, 2008

Things people will tell you, none of which are particularly helpful: You’ll get over it. Just be happy you feel this way about someone, even if they don’t feel the same. Obviously, you’re too neurotic/immature to fall for someone who is actually available to you. It’s just _____ {insert any of the following words or  [...]

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