The Definition is Yours

Lonesome Loser | December 24, 2009

I just want to argue for taking all this discussion, and every “expert” opinion on unrequited love (as well as romantic love in general) with several grains of salt.  Basically, deciding whether you are in love or not is your decision.  There is no surefire way to verify “for real” whether it’s love or not.  [...]

“Unrequited Love Isn’t Real”

Lonesome Loser | May 12, 2009

I’ve been surfing the net and finding there’s a lot of bad advice out there about unrequited love.  The superficial or manifest level of communication tends to go something like
“Gee, that’s too bad.  It’s so painful.  This isn’t really love, it’s limerence.  It’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is a place you can [...]

How do you know when you are in love?

Lonesome Loser | April 21, 2009

Great question! Not an easy one to answer. I’m working on an online quiz for love vs. crush, but it’s still in development.
Scientifically, there is no clear or universally accepted definition for being in love.  However, there is a universally observable phenomenon that is variously known as a crush, infatuation, being in [...]

When did you know you were in love?

Lonesome Loser | April 14, 2009

*This is another Discussion Question, meant for readers to respond to and talk about. Please offer comments…
Was there a moment where you crossed the line, emotionally, from “before” to “after?” Was it more of a gradual awareness? Was it love at first sight? Was it something you ignored or fought against [...]

The Naming Wall

Lonesome Loser | January 17, 2009

(I need to reiterate that “The Naming Wall” is a place for us to name the person we are/were in love with, not a place to post quotes or stories. Please post your personal stories, quotes, etc., as comments in response to regular posts.)
Admit it.  You’re in love or you have been in love [...]

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