Primer for Handling a Declaration of Unrequited Love

Lonesome Loser | July 30, 2010

The perspectives of the Loved Ones are discussed and will continue to be discussed in various posts on this blog, but this post in particular is intended to be the more matter-of-fact, “How to Handle a Declaration of Unrequited Love, For Dummies” version. First, you need to decide (and this shouldn’t be difficult) whether the [...]

Same Planet, Different Worlds

Lonesome Loser | May 22, 2010

Funny how we hear things we want to hear, and ignore things we wish weren’t true. It’s human nature, we all do it for any number of reasons. The dual lenses of denial and rose-coloring in the bifocal glasses that we all use is particularly distorting in unrequited love. Loved Ones say things we over [...]

“I Love You” — “What?!”

Lonesome Loser | March 30, 2010

So, someone has declared their undying love for you.  And you don’t feel the same.  How uncomfortable!  Someone saying they are in love with you when you don’t love them in return is an experience most of us wish we would never have.  However, the truth is that it is actually an experience that most [...]

Sing Along

Lonesome Loser | January 21, 2010

(Musicals on the mind today, sorry!) I’ve been thinking about the tension between our perspectives, and those of our Loved Ones or others, and how opposed they often seem to be. Would-be lovers see their love as “real,” whereas everyone else (including the Loved One) sees it as “unreal” or a “crush.”  Very frustrating!  This [...]

Slightly Drunk Post

Lonesome Loser | November 27, 2009

Please forgive the overly personal nature of this post.  I’m trying not to re-start my personal blog, I need it to be finished at some point, but I’m really feeling the desire to write from a personal perspective the last few days. I’ve recently returned from Thanksgiving dinner at my (former) in-laws, while (ex)spouse is [...]

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