Lonesome Loser | December 24, 2009
I just want to argue for taking all this discussion, and every “expert” opinion on unrequited love (as well as romantic love in general) with several grains of salt. Basically, deciding whether you are in love or not is your decision. There is no surefire way to verify “for real” whether it’s love or not. [...]
Lonesome Loser | November 28, 2009
Here’s a post for those of us who like questionnaires, charts, graphs, all the various accoutrements of science that make us feel things are more official. Briefly, attachment theory is a psychological theory of relationships that suggests our relationship styles with parental figures in early infancy predict our relationship styles as adults. In other words, [...]
Lonesome Loser | September 23, 2009
Did you ever go to a magic show when you were younger? You know the rabbit out of the hat trick? The magician stands behind a table covered with a red cloth, an old-fashioned top hat is shown to be empty, then laid upside down on the table. The magician waves his magic wand over [...]
Lonesome Loser | May 12, 2009
I’ve been surfing the net and finding there’s a lot of bad advice out there about unrequited love. The superficial or manifest level of communication tends to go something like “Gee, that’s too bad. It’s so painful. This isn’t really love, it’s limerence. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is a place you [...]
Lonesome Loser | April 21, 2009
Great question! Not an easy one to answer. I’m working on an online quiz for love vs. crush, but it’s still in development. Scientifically, there is no clear or universally accepted definition for being in love. However, there is a universally observable phenomenon that is variously known as a crush, infatuation, being in love, romantic [...]
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*This moniker sounds considerably more pathetic than I actually feel, but I just couldn't resist the tongue-in-cheek description.
: I offered you the best that I could offer. It wasn't enough for you. My love lasts forever, but now, I will no longer act on it, I will [...]
: 4 years and i still feel as strongely as i did when i first met you.now that highschool is over tomorrow may be the last [...]
: Carol, 14 years older than I am. I'm her intern and I shouldn't have fallen for her, but I did...
: I love you so much Michael....so very much.
: Kelly. The earth has moved nearly fifteen billion miles through space since the hour you called me and told me you did not love me, [...]
: I love you very much, Marilyn. Despite the circumstances (as I continue to struggle with it for the past four years), I will always [...]
: I love you Deborah. And I'm willing to live out my life as a spinster if that'll keep you happy.
: What does she give you that I cant?
: Brian, I love you. I know you felt something for me at one point but I didn't see it then and I only have myself [...]
: Lizzie, you just have no idea. I never gave up. I've lost count of the number of times my heart has been stabbed, but I [...]
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